I wish I had the means to raise a child. But I don’t. My boyfriend doesn’t want it, my mom works and goes to uni, I go to university, my dad works away from home. I don’t have a job that pays over $50 a week. I don’t drive. All my friends said I should have an abortion. No one supported me.
Did anyone else struggle like this between having an abortion and keeping the baby? What did you pick? Was it the right choice?
I’m sorry for all the posts. I just idk… I can’t figure my head out. It doesn’t help that I have an exam in two days. I ate sandwich meat today and salmon yesterday and Ranch dressing. Would I feel so guilty if I was going to have an abortion anyway?
I just need to make a decision, but it’s so hard. It’s harder when my boyfriend talks about all the things he and I could have without the baby.
Please listen to me, you can do this. I really think you want this baby, it’s been pretty obvious since your first posts. I think you already have your true answer. All the things you’ve listed are temporary conditions and your child is forever. These are struggles, yes, but there is so much help out in the world. You’ve already started to find that help for yourself, by posting this and asking these questions. Have faith in yourself; your heart knows what it wants, all you have to do now is find the support that you need and deserve.
Did you look into “optionline.org”? They offer a lot of services for people in your current situation. Whatever you need to prepare for taking care of your child (clothes, diapers, formula, emotional support, parenting classes) they can provide for you or help you with. (I’m not sure of your location, but based on your town/country I could point you in the direction of a more specific source of help.) Also, churches and church groups can be a big help to expectant mothers. If you have a local parish it could be something to look into. Parishes are an often overlooked source of help for new mothers.
Honestly, tell your boyfriend to support you like any loving partner would support their expecting girlfriend or gtfo. Seriously, you deserve love and support, not stress. And right now he’s making this about him and what he might have to sacrifice. You are already a mother, and you know this, so he really needs to get fully on board or give you some space and take his spiel somewhere else.
Listen, I support you. And I know that’s not much, coming from a girl somewhere far away, but I really believe in you. See, thirty-five years ago my mom’s best friend got pregnant. She was a teenager, the dad was unreliable, she was unmarried, etc. Every one of her friends told her to get an abortion except for one person. My mom never suggested it and was there for her friend absolutely. When MK had her daughter my mom became the little girl’s godmother. They are still best friends today and my god-sister Nico is a beautiful and successful 34-year-old. She’s got multiple degrees and she’s like crazy smart. But the important thing is that Nico and MK are happy. And I’m extremely happy that Nico is here and a part of my family.
So what I suggest is: do what your heart tells you and you’ll find your family.
Best of luck, and prayers! <3